We are in a day filled with screens and lacking personal interactions. The repercussions this is having on our children is HUGE, but there are ways to combat it!
I was chatting the other night with a friend how we want to be intentional about our time with our kids. Now when you are a stay at home (and working!) mom… that’s a lot of time. No matter how much physical time you spend with your kids, quality is the key.
Showing them that you are present, listening and care can totally shape who they become.
The book, Hands Free Mama made a huge impression on the way I think about my time with my kids. All mamas…. run and order this book!
5 Ways To Be More Present With Your Kids
Wake Up Earlier.– Don’t hate me already on option 1. I’m not perfect at this one and it sure isn’t easy when the boys wake up at 6 am, but it makes a huge difference in your day. You can finish some small tasks before they wake up, set intentions for the day, work out, etc. When you spend a few minutes to yourself in the morning it helps to be more patient and present throughout the rest of your day.
Be where your feet are.- This piece of advice came from Christy Wright at her business boutique workshop and couldn’t be anymore helpful. When you are working, be there. Put your heart into and chase your dreams. When you are with your kids, be there. Don’t be thinking about e-mails that need returned or check marks needed on a to- do list.
Stop going through the motions. – Motherhood is exhausting. Plain and simple. It can be so hard to get caught up in dishes, diapers, laundry and tantrums. Making a mindful attempt to realize that these days are numbered and really diving into the sweet moments is so important. Your kids can feel when you are half listening and they care.
Set a block timer for play. This sounds silly, but ever since I started doing we have had so many special moments. Put your phone away and get on the floor until the timer goes off. They will be the precious moments you will remember the most. (I also use this for work. Productivity will sky rocket.)
Spend one-on-one time with each child. This makes them feel special and cared for. It also to help know what is really going on with them in their little minds. It’s amazing what they will tell you when they feel safe.
Whenever I stop and think about how fleeting these sweet moments are where we are our child’s whole world it seems silly to even THINK about wasting them on our phone. Will we remember laughing at a meme on IG or the sound of them laughing? Motherhood is hard, but so worth it. We should all strive to be exceptional and raise exceptional kids. Imagine a world like that?!
For my fellow mompreneurs, I have a post about some tips and tricks of balancing stay at home mom life with working mom life. You can read that one HERE.
There is this new influx of mamas who are choosing to stay at home with their children, but also have a side hustle or a full on business they are running as well.
I call it “Mama 2.0”. Let’s be real, ALL MOMS ARE WORKING MOMS. Whether it’s going to an office everyday or staying home full time, we are all working our booties off and doing our best.
However, I have noticed so many of us wanting to have the best of both worlds. Let me tell you first hand, YOU CAN! BUT… it is not easy. It’s a ton of work. It takes a ton of organization and sacrifice. It’s also incredibly rewarding and it feels pretty badass to run a business with a baby on each hip.
I’ve had my ups and downs struggling with balancing this, but there are certain things I’ve learned that can completely make it more “doable.”
Tips For The Working Stay At Home Mom
Wake Up Earlier. Ok, I know this is not the easiest to put into action. It makes the biggest difference. Truthfully, lots of days I just don’t feel up to it. When I don’t, I struggle the rest of the day to make it all work.
Bonus points: Go for a run or workout right in the morning. Spend some time with a gratitude journal. Take a few minutes to yourself to best suit up for your day. It helps to start on a positive note, and you will notice a difference with your patience throughout the day.
Stick To A Strict Nap Schedule . We typically live a loose schedule type of lifestyle. We travel a lot, and want our kids to be very “go with the flow.” However, on days when I’m working for home I’m a stickler to the nap schedule. They know when it’s nap time, and I put them both down at the same time for a set amount of time. When you become a mama you instantly become 10x more productive. You can get SO MUCH DONE in a two hour nap period.
Prepare what you plan to accomplish during nap time ahead of time. The night before I’ll jot a quick list of my phone of what I need to do during nap time.
Give Up Your Night TV Time At least 3 Days A Week. Once the kids go to bed, I get to work. This is the part where sacrifice comes in. It becomes part of your daily habit to get to work after the kids go to bed. So many people can’t believe that this is an option, but it actually feels great! We have a few shows we watch each week, but don’t spend time just flipping channels. That’s prime work time.
When You Are With Your Kids, Be Present With Them. This is a hard one, but important to remember. It’s not beneficial to your children to stay home with them if you are not being present with them. It’s frustrating for both you and them to try to be sending off contracts or emails while playing dinosaurs. It’s not fair to anyone involved.
Use a Block Timer. These are a lifesaver for productivity. Set the timer for say, 15 minutes. Then for that set time only do one task. Don’t pick up your phone or try any other tasks within that set time. It’s a total game changer! You can shop this one from Amazon HERE.